The following is a guest post from from NYC photographer G.E. Masana
Sure, it was an ancient superstition that bad luck
would soon follow if the groom saw the bride in her gown before the wedding.
And in today's modern world some couples still wrangle over the question
whether to see each other prior to their ceremony -- but mostly for other
reasons.
It's safe to say that most of the world's weddings
couples already see each other as part of the wedding day process. In many
cultures and religions, couples meet before the ceremony for rituals such as
tea ceremonies, ketubah signings and garland ceremonies... and bad luck doesn't
necessarily follow (upon further investigation it turns out if bad luck
does
follow it's always because of something that happened when the bride and
groom saw each other
after the wedding, not before. But I digress).
Yet other brides weigh in on the question citing
tradition or talk about wanting to keep the mystique. Still, meeting earlier
for photos
does get you to your party sooner.
But there's one even
bigger aspect to
seeing each other prior to the ceremony that never seems to get talked about
although it makes the biggest difference to the couple. And it's not about
making more time for a cocktail hour or having "that" moment when she
walks down the aisle.
No, it's about something bigger than all that.
Something far more meaningful to the couple. Two things, actually. So let me
show you what they are.
Even though I've photographed hundreds of weddings
(I stopped counting at about 1,000) I've seen this over and over again. Here at
this particular wedding (shown below), the bride and groom weren't going to see
each other prior to the ceremony because they wanted to keep to
"tradition" and they wanted to make that moment when they first saw
each other, special.
But at the very last minute they had a change of
heart.
That change of heart came because the time they
had scheduled for photos after their ceremony was restrictive and also
conflicted with their cocktail hour. And they wanted to have sufficient time to
create great images. And they wanted to enjoy their cocktail hour. So they went
ahead, somewhat reluctantly, and planned to do a "First Look."
By the way, I've often noticed that while many
times people schedule their portrait session at the same time as their cocktail
hour, no two other events of the wedding day are ever simultaneously scheduled.
So let me propose we start now a new trend where the ceremony
and the
cocktail hour are scheduled for the same time. I believe guests may enjoy a
cocktail or two and an appetizer while watching you two get married. Don't you?
So please run this idea past your wedding coordinator and even if he or she
says no, ignore them and let's get this thing going! Be the first one on your
block. Be a trendsetter.
Back to my story. This couple met up earlier on
their wedding day for their "First Look." And so they got
"that" moment, in fact they were immersed in that OMG moment in a way
they couldn't have been if the ceremony was happening. They enjoyed this alone
time more privately away from the crowd, were free to enjoy sweet sentimental
moments together... all good. Which by the way also makes for some special
memories. And photo opportunities.
In fact you can see how high their emotions ran
right here in the seconds before their First Look:
Obviously, meeting earlier free from the needs of the ceremony
gives you more personal moments and experiences, adding memories to your day.
Good stuff.
Everything that happens during the First Look is a
unique experience you wouldn't have had if you didn't take that opportunity to
be with each other. And that's the first plus I wanted to tell you about.
But now, afterwards, when it came time for their
ceremony -- do you think the time they spent together earlier took any shine
off the magic?
Well I need to tell you, it sure didn't.
Though he had spent an hour with her already,
here's the photo I took when his bride made her appearance at the top of the
aisle. Check out the expression on his face:
His eyes are tearing up. His lip is quivering.
He's feeling it. And since I was there taking that photo I can tell you when
she turned the corner and came into view -- these two immediately locked eyes
on each other. They were
beyond riveted with each other.
It was as if there wasn't a single other soul in
the crowd -- despite the fact there was a huge throng of guests packed between
them. Didn't matter. His eyes were only on her. And hers were only on him.
You could literally feel their energy.
Now you may think that the moral of my little
story is "and so Dear Reader, having a First Look doesn't take away the
magic later" and that is the second point I wanted to tell you about. But
it isn't.
This is:
I realized spending that quality, personal time
together earlier on in the wedding day
ramps up and fuels the emotions
for when the magic moment finally comes when you see each other at your
ceremony.
It can add more anticipation, electricity and
passion to your ceremony. Because it adds it to your heart first.
All of which gives you many more unique moments of
your day to experience, more emotions for you to bask in -- and many more
memories for you to cherish.
ABOUT G.E. MASANA
Probably the only wedding
photographer in NYC coming from the art world, G.E. Masana's (gemasana.com) roster
of wedding clients have included, among many others, Vanessa Penna (Beauty Editor, ELLE),
Kelly Keskes (Model,
BRIDAL GUIDE), Jen Chapin (daughter of legendary
singer-songwriter Harry
Chapin), Barrie Gillies (BRIDES
magazine), Gaines Peyton (SEARS-PEYTON
GALLERY, NYC), Evan Galbraith (son of E. Galbraith, Ambassador to France),
Craig Kanarick (CCO,
RAZORFISH), assorted art directors, actors, opera singers,
cinematographers, fashion designers, graphic artists and photographers.
He's been seen in BRIDES, BRIDAL GUIDE, TOWN &
COUNTRY, NEW YORK MAGAZINE, STYLE ME PRETTY as well as other
magazines and blogs. He currently writes about weddings for HUFFINGTON POST and
served on "The List" of contributing photographers for MARTHA STEWART WEDDINGS.
He's been interviewed by the two
leading international professional wedding photography journals, RANGEFINDER and STUDIO PHOTOGRAPHY.
Recently he was awarded by the INTERNATIONAL
SOCIETY OF PROFESSIONAL WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHERS for his wedding
documentary photography. You can see more of his work at GEMASANA.COM
